From Advice to Authentic Connection

From Advice to Authentic Connection

“But if I’m not helping her, I’m not being my authentic self” he said.  “I don’t want to fake it.” We were having a conversation about the conversations he had with his wife.  She was struggling with dissatisfaction in her life and went to him to vent and get support....
It’s Safe to be Seen

It’s Safe to be Seen

“Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.”- Brené Brown Her grandmother didn’t have much time left.  She knew she needed to visit, but she was so scared.  “I don’t like to cry in front of people” she said.  “It will be too hard to see her like...
How to Heal Hypervigilance

How to Heal Hypervigilance

“I get triggered every time I’m around him.” He said.  “He’s always judging me.”  He felt self-critical, always trying, and failing, to live up to what he thought his dad’s example was. His dad was superman.  Always ultra-productive, and competent, and fast.  Juggling...
Calm and Connected Conversations

Calm and Connected Conversations

Sometimes conversations go around and around.  Each person not listening to the other and just trying to prove their own point.  You can feel when this is happening, it’s frustrating, it feels pointless, and it drains your energy. There are lots of reasons we get...
How To Make (and Keep) Good Friends

How To Make (and Keep) Good Friends

I hear the story all the time “It’s too hard to make friends as an adult” or “I don’t have time to hang out with friends” or “I’ve known them so long; I can’t change friends now.” I think sometimes in certain stages of life, the importance of positive, loving...